Rockin’ it in some Red Dollhouse heels! I’m loving the edginess of the dark, basic colors with zipper details on the shirt as well as the skirt. What is your Friday looking like?
I’ve grown up with dogs and have almost always had them around. I am not at a point in my life to be privileged enough to have one of my own. However, a Weim named Pollock will be my best friend as soon as I get a yard! My coworker brings his lab to work with him and I occasionally get the privilege to take her to the kennel and other such things. This morning was one of those days.
I must say, dogs are doing it right. It doesn’t matter how long their best friend has been gone; they greet them with the same enthusiasm whether it has been a few minutes or a few days. They don’t worry about the little things. Dogs stretch it out every chance given and they just don’t care if anybody else thinks they are goofy. In fact, they are loved even more because of those little quarks. A dog has such a love for life that it exudes from them into every room and place he or she goes. It is a light that brightens even the darkest of days. Regardless of how bad a day I have had, a dog always makes it better. Why can’t people be more like dogs – forgive and forget, love truly unconditionally, be enthusiastic about everything (even going to the bathroom)?
Go take a car ride on a beautiful day. Man, dogs are cool.
“Until you love yourself and all of your imperfections, you cannot accomplish anything.”
There are no truer words and for some reason, no truer words for me today. The only person in charge of your happiness is you. Once you have come to terms with this realization, life will open up.
Life can be hard. Each person is fighting his or her own battles. If you keep a positive outlook and know that everything happens for a reason, there are no limits to what can be achieved. So, just because bad days happen – it doesn’t mean that you have a bad life. Keep smiling your way through life, be a positive influence on others and have fun! Life is a journey not a destination.
The above quote is from Lucille Ball, by the way.
I have been looking for the right words to say something that has been on my mind a lot. The models in the magazines are skinny, duh. It is always news when a plus size model gets a spread in a major magazine. My issue is this: models are people to look up to, right? Why would I want to strive to be overweight? No, I don’t starve myself nor would I like to be a size 0. I don’t look up to people who take drastic measures to be skinny. However, some people are naturally skinny. That doesn’t impress me.
I want to be healthy. I want to be fit. I want to look great in anything I wear; but, I want to look even better naked. Why aren’t more fitness models in major magazine spreads? People who are determined, motivated, healthy, and beautiful, not because they were just lucky enough to be born with great genes, but because they work their asses off for it every single day. It doesn’t impress me to hear models or actresses proclaim to eat anything they want and never go to the gym or workout. I look up to healthy, motivated people who are proud of their bodies and are confident enough to admit to working out. Those are the women I want to look up to. Body image is so important and teaching our children that they have to be lucky in the genes department to be looked up to or to be big in fashion is ridiculous.
As I sit in the waiting room of the ER, I can’t help but feel responsible for my friend’s currently broken ankle. She has struggled with weight and I enabled it. We were headed back from the corner gas station with some snacks when she slipped on ice and snapped a bone. If we would have just stayed in, instead of getting snacks, she wouldn’t have had to go through the physical pain of a broken bone or the emotional pain of getting extra people to help her into the ambulance. Perhaps the break wouldn’t have happened if she were lighter. I have been such a bad influence on her. But the only thing either of us can do now is be better. She proved today that she is one of the strongest people I know. I couldn’t be more blessed to have her in my life and I can’t wait to make a difference for both of us. Do you use setbacks as a reason to improve or does it make you pity yourself and become more lazy?
…until you figure out what part is broken. It is one thing to know something needs to change, but it something completely different to actually make changes. It is easy to think in an all or nothing sort of way and try overhauling every bad habit one takes part in. However, sustainable change is made through small improvements and better decisions, daily. For instance, I have an addiction to fast food – it is so convenient – I know it is horrible for my body, it makes me depressed, it makes me tired all the time yet it keeps me up at night. Fast food does nothing good for me or my well being – it is just like an abusive relationship that I can’t get away from. Everyday I have the power to make a change for the better. Every time I reach for a Mountain Dew, there is an option for something better.
Quit saying “starting tomorrow” you do not need a new day to make a better decision. Every blink of the eye and drawing of the breath is a new chance to make the right decision. As humans, we will screw up. Just remember, one mistake doesn’t define you and it is not the end-all, be-all sign of failure. Your next opportunity for change will happen soon. Stay strong and believe in yourself!