I have been looking for the right words to say something that has been on my mind a lot. The models in the magazines are skinny, duh. It is always news when a plus size model gets a spread in a major magazine. My issue is this: models are people to look up to, right? Why would I want to strive to be overweight? No, I don’t starve myself nor would I like to be a size 0. I don’t look up to people who take drastic measures to be skinny. However, some people are naturally skinny. That doesn’t impress me.
I want to be healthy. I want to be fit. I want to look great in anything I wear; but, I want to look even better naked. Why aren’t more fitness models in major magazine spreads? People who are determined, motivated, healthy, and beautiful, not because they were just lucky enough to be born with great genes, but because they work their asses off for it every single day. It doesn’t impress me to hear models or actresses proclaim to eat anything they want and never go to the gym or workout. I look up to healthy, motivated people who are proud of their bodies and are confident enough to admit to working out. Those are the women I want to look up to. Body image is so important and teaching our children that they have to be lucky in the genes department to be looked up to or to be big in fashion is ridiculous.
As I sit in the waiting room of the ER, I can’t help but feel responsible for my friend’s currently broken ankle. She has struggled with weight and I enabled it. We were headed back from the corner gas station with some snacks when she slipped on ice and snapped a bone. If we would have just stayed in, instead of getting snacks, she wouldn’t have had to go through the physical pain of a broken bone or the emotional pain of getting extra people to help her into the ambulance. Perhaps the break wouldn’t have happened if she were lighter. I have been such a bad influence on her. But the only thing either of us can do now is be better. She proved today that she is one of the strongest people I know. I couldn’t be more blessed to have her in my life and I can’t wait to make a difference for both of us. Do you use setbacks as a reason to improve or does it make you pity yourself and become more lazy?
…until you figure out what part is broken. It is one thing to know something needs to change, but it something completely different to actually make changes. It is easy to think in an all or nothing sort of way and try overhauling every bad habit one takes part in. However, sustainable change is made through small improvements and better decisions, daily. For instance, I have an addiction to fast food – it is so convenient – I know it is horrible for my body, it makes me depressed, it makes me tired all the time yet it keeps me up at night. Fast food does nothing good for me or my well being – it is just like an abusive relationship that I can’t get away from. Everyday I have the power to make a change for the better. Every time I reach for a Mountain Dew, there is an option for something better.
Quit saying “starting tomorrow” you do not need a new day to make a better decision. Every blink of the eye and drawing of the breath is a new chance to make the right decision. As humans, we will screw up. Just remember, one mistake doesn’t define you and it is not the end-all, be-all sign of failure. Your next opportunity for change will happen soon. Stay strong and believe in yourself!